Living with long term-pain, especially after years of medical appointments, tests and the endless searching for answers, it’s natural to develop habits of thinking and reacting that feel as if they’re ‘fixed’. Even when you begin learning about neuroplastic symptoms or discover Dr. John Sarno’s work on Tension Myoneural Syndrome (TMS) and finally see a way forward, something inside can still feel stuck. The term for that gridlocked feeling is mental rigidity. 

One of the most surprising things about being human is that so much of what we think of another person may actually have little to do with them and a lot to do with us. I’ve come to understand this through my training and the many people I have worked with in the Resolving Chronic Pain (RCP) process.

When Daniel first approached me, he’d been suffering from unpleasant and debilitating stomach problems for several years. As a result, his life opportunities had significantly shrunk and the values he’d always upheld seemed to have slipped away.

Many people grow up in homes where keeping the peace isn’t just encouraged, it’s an emotional requirement. There can be many reasons for this. The tension may come from parents struggling financially, family issues, alcohol misuse, unpredictable moods, unspoken grief or the heavy silences that shape so many households.

At this time of year it’s hard to avoid hearing about new year’s resolutions. Although the general consensus seems to be that they rarely last, many of us still go ahead and make them. Mine was to stop drinking alcohol for six weeks, and week one has gone splendidly, mainly because I think my body is so relieved to have a rest from consumption! 

I met up with a good friend recently. We’ve known each other since university, where we shared rooms, so we have a lot of common ground - including the obligatory shared embarrassing memories! Our youthful misdemeanours have given us a special bond, although I sometimes wonder how on earth our landlord put up with us.